Punishment for a 6 year old.

[Geoffrey3029]

Well he finaly offended me.. I have a 6.75 year old boy that got under my skin. His mothers birthday was yesterday and she wanted to go out to dinner with the family (1year old daughter too) to Olive Garden. My son takes matters into his own hands (very forward) and calls his grand father, schedules dinner (Little Ceasers) and a pickup. My father arrives to pick him up I relize what has occured and cancel the deal. Lots of tears and pouting but He IS going to this dinner.. A clear understanding of the situation was talked over with him. More crying.. More crying.. Then crying from my wife.. And the worst happens.. She says he can go to the grandparents.. ARGGG.. If you let the kid win IMO it will only get worse. So my resolution he gets punished for a week. He was notified and given a choice when we droped him off to come with us or stay and be punished for a week to be determind daily. He being my son made the choice to stay at his grand parents and be punished for a week. Wierd but he is embraceing the punishment like it was worth it. He is well adjuestd forward thinking child that is super social (warned by other mothers.. Caught in a hot tub with 3 6year old girls) and very computer literate/video game capable. I say I dont know where he gets it but my wife says otherwise... Venting and ranting so back to the point.

First day punishment No video games, TV, or computer. Clean the his room and eat "All" of his lunch...

Wana help with the rest of the list for the week? The fun part.

[marshalrckman]

Man im gonna be forward here-If i had a kid who did that id bust his ass and ground him for a couple weeks!Just my opinion.-And if you think hes liking the punishment you gave him-thats like being slapped in the face-give him a punishment he hates!Good luck

[gman0526]

I think you are doing great so far, only thing is that you gave him a choice to begin with. The fun will wear off once he start being bored with no TV, comp.video ganmes, etc. Other major thing is that if you place the punishment it has to be implemented by ALL grown-ups around him too. Gotta make an united front.

[ams31]

Hopefully he will not do repeats of the pouting and tantrums. If he figures out that it works to get what he wants he will continue doing it. I hope, for your sake, that he did not figure out that it works. I know he is only six, but have you ever tried having him write what he did wrong and why it was wrong and what he should have done. He probably cannot write full sentences. I'm sure he can draw and may use inventive spelling.

[ams31]

Should have also added this. Remeber his age and the length of the punishment, as young as he is he may forget why he is being punished at the end of the week. When you do continue to punish him ask him if he knows why he is being punished, so that he understands that you are just not being cruel or mean.

[Doctor_Reef]

The punishment is ok...my question is what’s up with the wife???? She didn't back you???? I don't think this is a punishment problem??? A six year old can easily learn to play you two like a bad guitar against each other??? You two need to have a serious discussion on what to do in these kinds of situations...not to go against each other....Round one the six year old is the clear winner!!!!

[cich1]

i agree with Ron here, you need to have a talk with the wife. i also would not have given him a choice i would have stuck with my orginal decision and he would have to just live with it. parenting is so difficult

[cich1]

i agree with Ron here, you need to have a talk with the wife. i also would not have given him a choice i would have stuck with my orginal decision and he would have to just live with it. parenting is so difficult

[Geoffrey3029]

My opinion on whippings are mainstream and off the path.. I would only whip him if he went over the top.. Injured his sister severly or someone else, burn a barn down (i did that once, bad whipping). If you hit someone expect to get hit back.. He mearly wanted to get his way and devised a plan of action, Followed the plan, meet obstruction, overcame the problems, Meet his objective with consequences for his actions. No one was injured, no harm was done except for a hurt feeling or 2. Slap in the face ya but for a forward thinking kid I mearly want let him weigh the consequences for his actions. Mabee it was worth it to go to his grand parents for 4 hours to be punished for a week. His grandparents also had talked with him about it while he was there and they were on the united front. Well we as adults dont realy watch the items of intrest he likes.. If he wants to watch CNN more power to him but I doubt he will, then again desperate kids these days. .. next.. I did not begin with giveing him a choice, It started with he will be apart of the family and he will go. He worked us and ya the united front broke down with his mom crying and giving in.. I rolled with it and makeing it a weight comparitive punishment. Normaly she does not break but it was her birthday and I think there is a song about crying on your birthday. Old one I beleive.
You know it ;)
Ah tantrums dont get too far in our house and are normaly short lived but he had a goal in mind if she could have waited 5 more min it would have been over and the rest of the night peacefull.. He is quite helpfull with his sister (he can make he smile/laugh at a look).

I like the writeing the punishment idea and consequences.. thats very old school and It will be implemented sooner then later.. He reads and spells very well. The notice we received from the teachers testing was he is reading 3rd grade level material in kindergarden and now he is moveing into 1st grade. So write out what happend even if I have to help him write it the first time should be very effective. He wont be forgetting this during the week of punishment because we will talk about it nightly altho when the punishment time is up it will be laid to rest. Its difficult to stay stern with his personality.
This round the kid takes it but remember its war. buhahah heh

[cich1]

i've never seen the need to whip anybody, i think that sitting down and discussing what was wrong and why it was wrong and the important part, listening to the childs reason for doing what they did and deciding what will be done differently in the future is much more effective than reaching for a paddle. jmo but i can't seem to justify hitting someone i love

[Geoffrey3029]

Evidence Exibite #1

[Doctor_Reef]

Great looking guy there.... He looks like he could be a pistol!!! I have a grand daughter that is 2 now...and she is as smart as a whip...and a pistol also.... But so much fun to be with...I am glad that my parenting days are over but do love the grand parent role!!! :)

[cich1]

good looking boy and hes wearing my hero Spiderman

[Geoffrey3029]

Quite the whipper snapper

I grew up with a Marine Gunnery Sergeant for a father...dont remember too many whoopin's, but God how I remember 8 count Body Builders, duck walking up and down the drive way, Push Ups forever begin and laps around the block till "Dad was tired" all the while being reminded everystep of the way why I was doing it! It made quiet the impression and got me in good shape too! After about a week or two of that at a shot...I did learn the meaning of respect in a major kinda way!

Just another option to think about.....

[jenny2]

Good looking kid!

I agree with Ron. You and your wife need to talk and present a united front to your child. She should not have said "yes" after you said "no".
All your six year old learned was that tears and acting up will get you what you want. Adding a punishment later would work for a 10 year old, but I don't know how well it will work for a six year old. It is too much too late.

[FishinInTheDark]

Love it, Ray! I see lots more trips around the blocks for my girls!

[Geoffrey3029]

Well Day 4 of the 7 day punishment.. So far so good.. He wakes me up each morning saying "Good morning.. So what is the punishment today." And I have fun with the punishment each day now... I write a letter from him about what he did and what he will do and wont do for the day. In the morning he reads it to me and then has to write it in his own handwriteing back to me.. I do some changeup on the will and wonts. Stuff like eating all of his lunch, not a complaint, helping with his sister no tv/games, has to ride his bike or go for a swim... You could call this not real punishment but it does give him definite structure for the day. 7 days of punishment was a little overkill hindsight so the structure will do and of cource no mind numbing teen titans. I occasionaly get suckd into that vortex too. He is reminded about and understands what he has done and I asked a simple question. "Was 4 hours worth a week of this" Answer: "No.. I will be apart of the festivitys next time...." Its great to see him use big words.. Altho his writeing of the letter needs alot of practice.

I could run him around the block but that would mean I would have to too... hmm something there seems wrong about his punishment.. That is a punishment I will probibly save for when he is a touch older when im a little more fit tho I like the idea..

Hey Conni...it will keep them healthy and fit...no couch potatos at your house...Sound mind & fit body!

Yeah dad was in pretty good shape for a 40 something man, but had his lazy days too and would follow me around the block in the car or a Bicycle too from time to time when he wasnt as "motivated" as I was...

[FishinInTheDark]

My kids are too little for many trips around. There is a quarter-mile running track 1/2 block from our house. I can see myself standing in the middle of it with the pooped out two-year-old, still watching the five-year-old. I'm not talking grass drills in the driveway, but I agree that a little exertion is good for both the mind and body.

Knowing my girls, they'll get in trouble on purpose just to get to the track.

[Zack]

Knowing my girls, they'll get in trouble on purpose just to get to the track.


Yikes, now that does not sound good!

[Doctor_Reef]

Zack - That sounds like it is a punishment with appeal!!! :lol: